Well as we all say, life is not fair. It shows us stuff at times that is plain out of the world. And at other times, things we know and what have been really scared of.
We must learn to accept the things we have been scared of and justify to ourselves if what we are doing feels right at a basic level, before doing it.
If it does feel right, then we are to be bold enough to support our decision, keeping in mind that we must learn and unlearn new things on the road to reaching our goal.
Dont let learning or unlearning sway you away from the goal, as that is what will drive home the happiness and joy you want actually.